A Question about Samuel

When a couple gives birth to a child with Autism, the presence of Autism is not evident right away.   It is impossible to predict before birth, as at present, there is no test that can be done to detect Autism in utero (as with Down Syndrome).

Of course, individual children vary in when they begin to show signs of Autism, and with our boys (particularly Noah and Samuel), once they reached about a year and a half and weren’t speaking any words, we knew.  We had each of them assessed at two years old – and with Noah, an iron-clad diagnosis was confirmed in his assessment report.

But with Samuel, it wasn’t exactly “confirmed.”

Samuel’s assessment specifically states that Autism is “suspected,” based on our family history and his significant speech delay.  It recommended that he be reassessed in 2-3 years to re-evaluate, and perhaps a diagnosis of Autism would be found at that time.

So, when I said that Samuel didn’t talk at a year and a half, and we “knew” he was Autistic, I should say, we THOUGHT we knew.  In any case, we strongly assumed that he had followed in his brothers’ paths.

Case closed, move on, begin the early intervention…

But a month or so ago, one of our dear friends – who is an Elementary Learning Support teacher and who has had numerous chances to observe Samuel both in the classroom and at our house – brought something to our attention.

She asked, “Is Samuel really, really Autistic?  I’m not sure I see it.  I don’t see a lot of the signs.”

My knee-jerk reaction was, “Um, OF COURSE he is…..”

The possibility of Samuel not being autistic had honestly, never entered our minds since Samuel’s assessment at two years old.

But, we listened and talked about it more.


  • has an uber-loving and highly social personality – and is extremely outgoing with his family, friends AND even strangers
  • is operating at an age-appropriate academic level
    • except for verbal expression (due to his speech delay)
  • demonstrates excellent eye contact with others
  • comprehends and follows oral directions such as walking in a line or sitting on a carpet with his peers
    • for the most part…
  • is very perceptive of others’ emotions and shows extreme empathy
    • especially towards his big brother, Noah…  If Noah is upset, Samuel gets upset – and then does everything under the sun to try and cheer Noah up
  • shows good joint attention
    • i.e. when you point to something like the moon, and say, “Look!” and he looks at the moon with you
  • engages in appropriate use of imaginative play with toys
    • i.e. using a toy car as a car and not as something random like a hair brush
  • is pretty easy going and flexible
  • has minimal issues with transitions – even when moving to non-preferred activities
  • shows no outward, physical signs of Autism
    • no stereotypical, repetitive motor movements
      • similar to Noah and his “shaking” of the strings/leaves or Gabriel and his occasional “jumping and flapping” when he gets excited
    • no obsessions with toys, foods, etc.
    • no echolalia
      • i.e. pervasive repeating of phrases, such as lines from movies, spoken completely out of context

And that is a long list of characteristics that don’t point to Autism.

To double check myself, I went through the DSM V (Diagnostic and Statistical Manual – 5) which is the “bible,” so to speak, when it comes to listing specific characteristics of Autism, and honestly, most of what was listed didn’t match Samuel.


The overwhelming characteristic that Samuel displays that makes him a candidate for Autism is his severe speech delay – and his difficulty with articulating his sounds/words.

This, in and of itself, contributes to significant delays in his ability to socialize with his peers, communicate his thoughts during class and at home, and is largely the reason he receives such a significant amount of extra support at school.

He also seems to have hyper-sensitive hearing and needs noise-cancelling earphones whenever he is in a loud environment (such as a school assembly) – which is also a common characteristic of Autism.


And above, I mentioned that he usually follows verbal directions in class; well, yes and no.

He is MUCH better than he used to be with following directions.  He used to not be able to sit on a carpet and listen to a story, but now he can – and he will ask questions and engage in the story.

So, is he Autistic?  Is he REALLY on the Spectrum?

My guess – probably, but on a mild scale.  OR, he could have a new diagnosis called “Social Communication Disorder” or SCD – which is a form of “Autism Lite,” if you will; people with this disorder display some characteristics of Autism but not enough of them to be diagnosed with full-on Autism.

In fact, when Gabriel and Noah were diagnosed, way back when, both boys were officially diagnosed with Pervasive Developmental Disorder – Not Otherwise Specified (PDD-NOS) – which falls along the same lines as SCD – Autistic traits, but not enough of them to be considered Autism.

However, PDD-NOS and Aspergers Syndrome no longer exist; they are no longer valid diagnoses in the DSM V.  Now, anyone who had those diagnoses come under the large umbrella of Autism Spectrum Disorder, and there are now three levels of severity:

  • Level 1: Requiring Support
  • Level 2: Requiring Substantial Support
  • Level 3: Requiring Very Substantial Support

Anyways, we are having Samuel reassessed in the fall and should finally have a definitive answer to this question, but again, my guess is that he will be officially diagnosed with either SCD or Level 1 Autism.

In the meantime, we couldn’t be more pleased with his progress, which we completely attribute to the inquiry-based, hands-on, student-driven instruction he’s received from the amazing Elementary educators at AISJ.

He’s also had several other critical areas work in his favor: because we were on guard for Autism when he was a baby, Samuel received very early intervention, which is deeply important in helping children with ANY disability start off on the right path.  He has had the stability and structure of living in one place his whole life, has grown up with the same peers, and has been blessed to have two big brothers to watch and mimic, and help guide him.


We are praying that his wonderful progress continues. 🙂

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